I was inspired to write this letter to my daughter by International Women’s Day. It’s a day that celebrates women’s achievements in society, raises awareness about gender bias, and aspires to a more equal world. These are all things that every mom would probably love for their daughter’s future. For as many life lessons that I have and will continue to teach her, she’s also taught me some along the way as well:
Dear Macy,
At two years old, first and foremost I hope you always remember how much I love you and how in many ways you’ve given me a new set of eyes and perspective on life. Life will be full of lessons – lessons that I teach you, lessons from educators, lessons from life and experiences…BUT, I wanted to make sure and actually jot down some very important life lessons that you (yes you) at your young life have already taught me:
Strength
You are strong girl, and at such a young age. You don’t see yourself as different or lacking. You don’t see gender, race, or anything that makes you lesser than the next person. When you go to the playground and you see the tallest slide, you have no fear. You climb as high as your little legs let you, and you get to the peak and make your way down the slide. You are strong – at two and at 92 – you are strong. Don’t ever let life make you doubt the strength that comes from within. If there’s a will, there’s a way.
Kindness
You are KIND. I still remember at a recent family party, your great Auntie Tessie who is partially paralyzed from a stroke was coughing. You came up to her, and in your little toddler voice you said, “Are You OK?”
She was so impressed, she said that people rarely take the time to ask her how she is doing or feeling. But this little two-year-old girl came up to her and asked her how she’s doing. While everyone else was pleasantly surprised, I wasn’t because you’ve always been kind. It’s always been natural for you to connect with other people and bring joy, whether it be a simple hello, a smile, or hug.
You are the child so pure in spirit, if you see someone sad, you want to make sure they are OK. Life will throw you experiences where your kindness will be tested, where you may even feel defeated, or just don’t feel like being kind. Push through that and stay kind. The world needs more kindness.
Say “I Love You”
Last night after a tantrum (because you’ve been fighting an ear infection and have been absolutely miserable), you wiped your tears and said, “Mommy, I love you!” You always say “I love you” to Daddy, to Maddox (your older brother), to family, and to me.
Those three simple words are sometimes lost in the hustle and bustle of life, but those three words are everything. Those words will be your olive branch in disagreements. Those words will connect you to the most important loved ones in your life. Those three words are powerful, and I hope you never forget that sometimes – in life’s tantrums (yes, you’ll have them even as an adult) – they will make everything OK!
Love,
Your biggest fan – Mom!
