Best Laid Plans


Best laid plans“Best Laid Plans.” When this phrase is used it is usually followed by a “but” or a story of how that plan didn’t…well…go as planned.

I almost always have a plan.

I’m not sure if this is a superpower or a flaw. But I like to think I have found a way to make it work for me and have a balance. Balance is key!

I’m not going to lie.

If I could somehow have my entire calendar filled in for the next three years I would love that. Ooh and a personal assistant…and an extra bedroom…and…. Oh sorry I started on my fantasy wish list and got distracted….

So anyhoo….

Best laid plans. They almost never work…but I keep doing them anyway! 

There is an old Yiddish proverb that translates to “Man plans and God laughs.” I know this concept. I try to be present in the moment. Yet I keep making plans, and then I get jarred when they change. Maybe this is my weekly reminder that I am human and I don’t have it all figured out.

Here is an example: 

My first client today wasn’t until noon. My husband has the day off and can be in charge of getting the kids where they need to go. So I made a plan. I know, I know, but that’s what I do.

The plan was, I was going to get up and get ready like a normal Monday, and then I was going to sit down with all the work I haven’t gotten to over the last couple of weeks and get caught up from 8:30 to 11:30. I had/have a list of about 5 pressing to-do items that I won’t bore you with, but that I will just say are important and time sensitive. There are about 5 to 20 more things on my dream to-do list. You know, that These-things-would-improve-life/job/mommying/etc-and-someday-I-will-do-them-all list.

Well guess what…. Not happening.

When I made this plan yesterday morning, I did not know my toddler would get progressively more and more sick as the day went on and would come in my room every hour on the hour over night.

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I am so tired that I can’t seem to clear the fog in my brain.  So it is 9:30 and I am writing this to feel productive (although not the blog post I planned on writing, at least I can cross something off my list). 

This best laid plan gone awry reminded me these plans sometimes set me off in self judgement. 

So the moral:

If you are a blog groupie you know I don’t like to whine without a moral! 

I’m going to try and not have expectations for my plans, just hopes. I am going to work hard to shrug off the plans gone awry and remember that is how life works, especially mom life. 

Now, I’m going to do a little bit of self care before I get back to that list….

I’m thinking coffee.

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I grew up in Orange County then went to Los Angeles (with a short detour in Santa Barbara) for college and spent the next 12 years there thinking that was home until I met my amazing, now husband on and moved back here to start our life together. I have a young son and daughter that are two years apart. They are thick as thieves and keep us laughing. I worked in Hospice care for 15 years and now I take Working Mom to a whole new dimension with a private mental health practice I worked hard with many jobs hustling for many years to grow my own business. I'm proud to say I'm helping people in my own office full time. The decision to quit my full time job working for some one else and to work towards creating much needed grief, trauma and self esteem support in Orange County fills my soul. I may not spend 24/7 with my kids but I plan to be role model to them and the time we have is all about quality not quantity. I'm working on a life/work balance but I find this is much easier when I love all aspects of my life and work and self.